'Everybody's got a hold on hope, It's the last thing that's holding me.....'
Lines from the song 'Hold on Hope', im listening to right now...somehow makes me realize how we all cling to a hope, for some miracle to happen to turn things our way. There are certain things that you have no control over, and they sort out with time.
Why is that we still want to give time to things when the gut feeling contradicts it.Yet you find yourself so helpless at times. Maybe because we dont want to regret later that we gave up, when hanging in there for a little while could have made things better. After all when the going gets tough, the tough gets going.
Im clinging to a hope, that i might be able to get what i want, despite the odds. Im playing the waiting game but dont know what the outcome will be.
Im just like a passive player in a football ground. Have run around the ball a lot and am tired of doing that. Standing still for the ball to come my way. Yet im not leaving the field, dont want to quit. Then what am i doing in the field? I wonder....
That my friend, is hoping against hope!
Next song on the playlist, 'Time of your Life' by Green Day...
Another turning point;
a fork stuck in the road.
Time grabs you by the wrist;
directs you where to go.
So make the best of this test
and don't ask why.
It's not a question
but a lesson learned in time.
It's something unpredictable
but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Monday, March 10, 2008
Of the non-living bed bugs!
I recently read an article about how technology is invading our bedrooms. The article mentions how most of us interact with technological gadgets in the last moments before we sleep. It had a startling fact '20% of the people surveyed have checked social networking sites like Facebook, Orkut, Chatted online, played computer games or listened to MP3 players between the sheets just before sleeping.'
Most of us follow the same trend. The web is a place where people can find a comforting ear. Whatever the reasons for being unhappy, the internet can become a tempting distraction from the problems in life, heartache and the hassle of tackling relationship problems.
These non living bed-bugs are affecting our lives in a big way - sleep patterns get altered, we deny our bodies the rest it needs to re-charge for the next day. Between all these things, unknowingly our relationships are being hit. Ideally when one retires at the end of the day, it should be the time to assess the day , spend some time with self or to talk to one's partner. The bedroom should be the place to spend good quality time. That the time to bond before turning the lights off and calling it a day.
Technology makes it easier than ever to stay in touch these days, but can make it difficult to stay connected to our relationships.Ultimately its the relationships that matter to us.
This weekend, i re-arranged my bedroom. Other than the electricity points, all gadgets - my laptop, radio set, a pile of Cd's,phone have been kicked out. Books have taken their place. Some fiction. Some textbooks. That reminds me of the MBA exams i have from next week and the syllabus i dont know :(
Most of us follow the same trend. The web is a place where people can find a comforting ear. Whatever the reasons for being unhappy, the internet can become a tempting distraction from the problems in life, heartache and the hassle of tackling relationship problems.
These non living bed-bugs are affecting our lives in a big way - sleep patterns get altered, we deny our bodies the rest it needs to re-charge for the next day. Between all these things, unknowingly our relationships are being hit. Ideally when one retires at the end of the day, it should be the time to assess the day , spend some time with self or to talk to one's partner. The bedroom should be the place to spend good quality time. That the time to bond before turning the lights off and calling it a day.
Technology makes it easier than ever to stay in touch these days, but can make it difficult to stay connected to our relationships.Ultimately its the relationships that matter to us.
This weekend, i re-arranged my bedroom. Other than the electricity points, all gadgets - my laptop, radio set, a pile of Cd's,phone have been kicked out. Books have taken their place. Some fiction. Some textbooks. That reminds me of the MBA exams i have from next week and the syllabus i dont know :(
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Little things that matter much
As it stands, our closest relationships invlove a lot of truth telling and lying. Truth is hard to accept and so are lies. What makes a person bend a certain fact, a fact that might not even matter. However, the lying definitely matters. It can ruin a relationship and the mutual trust, giving room for suspicion and doubt to spring.
It drives me crazy sometimes to think about how deception is creeping into our lives. How shallow statements like 'I would never lie to you' have become. There are times when you want to confront people with their lies, its not the truth that you want to know, but why the person lied about something so trivial. What people do is continue covering up, repeating the same lie even when the truth is all there staring in your face.
The person who shares his/her deepest thoughts, darkest secrets, random nitty-gritties of the day, is the same person who also lies to you about stupid things that do not matter. You happen to come to terms with a lie, and bang there is one more put accross your path.
Will the truths of today become lies of tomorrow? How many times can one forget or forgive? Why lie, when telling the truth will be accepted? Are some of us leading dual lives?
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Everyday Humour
Random incidents that make my life seem not so mundane.
5:30 in the evening, I was hungry, went down to the food court to grab a bite at mcdonald's. I asked for 1 McVeggie with extra cheese. The person on the other side of the counter, smiled and asked, if i wanted 2 slices of cheese. Fine im thin, should eat more but 2 slices of extra cheese?? What the heck?? Stupid question...but i was smiling none the less.
Shopping at a market for juttis/Mojri's. While waiting for my size of the jutti, was discussing layoff's in TCS. The shopkeeper jumped into the discussion giving his views. As it turned out to be, the shopkeeper was a TCS employee working amidst 1000's of juttis in a crowded shop trying to sell them. We were stunned to see the IT pro + shopkeeper combo!
I had to speak to a colleague so pinged her to ask for the ext # on the office IM, she gave me a 4 digit #. My poor fingers so used to hitting keys on the keyboard for majority of the day, keyed in the 4 digit num on the numeric keypad of the keyboard, rather than the keypad of phone on my desk. Talk about occupational hazards!
7:55 am on a weekday, while travelling to work, a new pick-up was added in the cab roster. It was a female. We managed to reach the address in the roster, it was a PG. A girl stood there, she asked if it was route # C1, we replied yes and she boarded the cab. A few kms down the road she suddenly asked, if it was the company X's cab. And we replied, 'No'. We are going to Company Y. Obviously it was the height of co-incidence and stupidity together.
Life is strange and anything and everything can happen. One of my favorite quotes is 'Life is what happens to you when you are busy doing something else.' Well this quote makes me want to write more....but will do that in the next post :D
5:30 in the evening, I was hungry, went down to the food court to grab a bite at mcdonald's. I asked for 1 McVeggie with extra cheese. The person on the other side of the counter, smiled and asked, if i wanted 2 slices of cheese. Fine im thin, should eat more but 2 slices of extra cheese?? What the heck?? Stupid question...but i was smiling none the less.
Shopping at a market for juttis/Mojri's. While waiting for my size of the jutti, was discussing layoff's in TCS. The shopkeeper jumped into the discussion giving his views. As it turned out to be, the shopkeeper was a TCS employee working amidst 1000's of juttis in a crowded shop trying to sell them. We were stunned to see the IT pro + shopkeeper combo!
I had to speak to a colleague so pinged her to ask for the ext # on the office IM, she gave me a 4 digit #. My poor fingers so used to hitting keys on the keyboard for majority of the day, keyed in the 4 digit num on the numeric keypad of the keyboard, rather than the keypad of phone on my desk. Talk about occupational hazards!
7:55 am on a weekday, while travelling to work, a new pick-up was added in the cab roster. It was a female. We managed to reach the address in the roster, it was a PG. A girl stood there, she asked if it was route # C1, we replied yes and she boarded the cab. A few kms down the road she suddenly asked, if it was the company X's cab. And we replied, 'No'. We are going to Company Y. Obviously it was the height of co-incidence and stupidity together.
Life is strange and anything and everything can happen. One of my favorite quotes is 'Life is what happens to you when you are busy doing something else.' Well this quote makes me want to write more....but will do that in the next post :D
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Toll takes a toll!
Finally after a long wait and speculation, missed deadlines, land aquisition tussles,VIP's time crunch, decisions on the toll charges the 32 lane toll plaza and Delhi-Gurgaon expressway was opened to public two days back.
Not everyone is a Ratan Tata who delivered what was promised. NHAI and DS contructions certainly dont believe in it. The 15 min drive from Delhi to Gurgaon is far from reality. After all the hullaboo around it has given commuters(me being one) a harried time.
Day 1 : Monday Morning, High volume of traffic, vehicles piling up on the highway to pay toll. I had to wait for a good 30 minutes before i could get to the toll booth. The vehicles moved with snail pace. Seeing the traffic pile up in the rush hours, the vehicles were allowed to go without paying toll. Reached office almost an hour late.
While going back in the evening, same scenario as the morning, with one change. There were toll collectors in the middle of traffic collecting toll like balloon,flower and fruit sellers who come down knocking at the car windows. Innovative, yet time consuming. I reached home 30 mins later than the usual time.
Day 2 : We decided to avoid the toll plaza totally, so took a detour towards Kapashera, the old gurgaon-delhi highway. The roads are narrow, with too many cycles and pedestrians. But atleast our car kept moving. Plus, we paid no toll :D. Also, saved on burning a lot of fuel that otherwise would only make holes in the ozone and our pockets. Reached late by 10 mins, but thats okay. Took the same route in the evening, avoided the traffic at the toll.
Today, things were better, we took the expressway - people followed the correct lanes, handing out exact change, runners who collected toll if there was a traffic pile-up, we used the tag/smart card to cross the toll. Reached office on time.
I guess, after a few initial hiccups, a change in the operational strategy, commuters opting for smart cards/tags, and following correct lanes;the travel time would go down as expected bringing much needed relief to people.
P.S. If you're not on the driver's seat, traffic jams give one ample time to do small things like
Calling up a long-lost friend or making a to do list for the impending tasks or knitting something or even peeling off peas or playing cards or ogling around to locate a hot chick/due or playing 'Aryabhatta' in analysing the registeration numbers of cars or hold ur partners hand if she/he is sitting next to you and so much more .My imagination is running wild.... ;)
Happy Commuting!
Not everyone is a Ratan Tata who delivered what was promised. NHAI and DS contructions certainly dont believe in it. The 15 min drive from Delhi to Gurgaon is far from reality. After all the hullaboo around it has given commuters(me being one) a harried time.
Day 1 : Monday Morning, High volume of traffic, vehicles piling up on the highway to pay toll. I had to wait for a good 30 minutes before i could get to the toll booth. The vehicles moved with snail pace. Seeing the traffic pile up in the rush hours, the vehicles were allowed to go without paying toll. Reached office almost an hour late.
While going back in the evening, same scenario as the morning, with one change. There were toll collectors in the middle of traffic collecting toll like balloon,flower and fruit sellers who come down knocking at the car windows. Innovative, yet time consuming. I reached home 30 mins later than the usual time.
Day 2 : We decided to avoid the toll plaza totally, so took a detour towards Kapashera, the old gurgaon-delhi highway. The roads are narrow, with too many cycles and pedestrians. But atleast our car kept moving. Plus, we paid no toll :D. Also, saved on burning a lot of fuel that otherwise would only make holes in the ozone and our pockets. Reached late by 10 mins, but thats okay. Took the same route in the evening, avoided the traffic at the toll.
Today, things were better, we took the expressway - people followed the correct lanes, handing out exact change, runners who collected toll if there was a traffic pile-up, we used the tag/smart card to cross the toll. Reached office on time.
I guess, after a few initial hiccups, a change in the operational strategy, commuters opting for smart cards/tags, and following correct lanes;the travel time would go down as expected bringing much needed relief to people.
P.S. If you're not on the driver's seat, traffic jams give one ample time to do small things like
Calling up a long-lost friend or making a to do list for the impending tasks or knitting something or even peeling off peas or playing cards or ogling around to locate a hot chick/due or playing 'Aryabhatta' in analysing the registeration numbers of cars or hold ur partners hand if she/he is sitting next to you and so much more .My imagination is running wild.... ;)
Happy Commuting!
Crossroads
Last few months, most of friends & aquaintances have had a change in their relationship status. People getting in and out of marriages has become so common. For every 2-3 marriages/engagements i hear of, i get to hear of a couple headed for splitsville. i wonder is it some underlying balance nature is trying to maintain.
Discussed it with M, his reaction 'Fat leti hai yeh sochke kabhi kabhi' was funny yet true! 'Yeh' referrred to the divorces happening around all of us. Another friend M commented, 'BC...saala samajh nahi aata, ho kya jata hai!!'
Seems all of us infected with the 'More-is-Less' virus, and relationships are dying as a result of the infection.None of us are content with what we have - jobs, salaries, clothes, cars. This discontentment is spilling onto the non-material belongings - our relationships with our partners. Rigidity with what we want, i feel, is the rampant cause for relationships being at crossroads. Compromises/sacrifice no longer exists in our dictionaries.
Sansui's tagline 'Better than the best' also seems to have come up from the fact, that nothing meets our level of expectation, and how we feel there is always something better to look out for. The bar of the expectation is rising only upwards, with little tolerance and leeway for the other.
Couples seem happy and seems they will always be together. Then, out of the blue, one of the pair plays the divorce card, leaving all those involved wondering what knocked them off the fence. I too, have been knocked off trying to figure out what fails in the relationship???
Discussed it with M, his reaction 'Fat leti hai yeh sochke kabhi kabhi' was funny yet true! 'Yeh' referrred to the divorces happening around all of us. Another friend M commented, 'BC...saala samajh nahi aata, ho kya jata hai!!'
Seems all of us infected with the 'More-is-Less' virus, and relationships are dying as a result of the infection.None of us are content with what we have - jobs, salaries, clothes, cars. This discontentment is spilling onto the non-material belongings - our relationships with our partners. Rigidity with what we want, i feel, is the rampant cause for relationships being at crossroads. Compromises/sacrifice no longer exists in our dictionaries.
Sansui's tagline 'Better than the best' also seems to have come up from the fact, that nothing meets our level of expectation, and how we feel there is always something better to look out for. The bar of the expectation is rising only upwards, with little tolerance and leeway for the other.
Couples seem happy and seems they will always be together. Then, out of the blue, one of the pair plays the divorce card, leaving all those involved wondering what knocked them off the fence. I too, have been knocked off trying to figure out what fails in the relationship???
Friday, October 19, 2007
The Law of the Garbage Truck
How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or a missed cab ruin your day? And how often you even let inanimate objects do the same to you? Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels.
Many people(including me sometimes) are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you.
When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did. I guarantee it. So this was it: The "Law of the Garbage Truck."
I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? And how often am i driving this garbage truck trampling people under it?
Spreading the garbage will not make the world a better place to live in. I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on. Be happy. This will make you happier.
P.S. Somedays you are the bird, on other days you are the statue.
Many people(including me sometimes) are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you.
When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did. I guarantee it. So this was it: The "Law of the Garbage Truck."
I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? And how often am i driving this garbage truck trampling people under it?
Spreading the garbage will not make the world a better place to live in. I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on. Be happy. This will make you happier.
P.S. Somedays you are the bird, on other days you are the statue.
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