Psychologies

Ive been tagged to answer these random questions. So here are my answers.

Q1) What do you miss most about childhood ?
A1) I miss the carefree attitude. Back then,i did not have to plan for ahead. No desires, no goals, no targets, no responsibilties. Easy going life with little to worry about.

Q2) What makes you glad that you're at this age.
A2) Today i am financially independent. I can take my decisions and am no longer dependent on anyone to do anything for me.

Q3) What kind of people repel you?
A3) People who do not confront situations and take the easy way out. People who are self-centered. I do not like people who are too much into how you look and what you wear.

Q4) What is the biggest dilemma you have faced?
A4) The classical head Vs heart dilemma, where it has pulled me apart in different directions. And im still wondering, who is right?

Q5) So what do you think of marriage now?
A5) Marriage is hard work and one needs to step into it only when one is ready to give it all it needs, to make it work. Nothing works on its own, even a cell phone needs to be charged everyday for it to work.

Q6) So would you prefer a live-in relationship to marriage?
A6) A 100% NO.

Q7) What would you change about yourself?
A7) I cling to things and push myself too far at times. I'd like to really change these things about myself.

Q8) What do you think of the Indian youth?
A8) I think the Indian youth today is living a life beyond their means. I feel they have a false sense of what life is. They know the cost of evrything but the value of nothing.

Q9) What about the man-woman divide?
A9) In rural areas, i guess it exists but it does not matter. Women rarely think of empowerment in those areas. In the urban areas, this gap has been bridged.

Q10) So you think women are less empowered?
A10) No, Women are no way less empowered. Women underplay their intelligence and showing her weakness is where a woman’s greatest strength lies.

Q11) What would you never change about yourself?
A11) Thinking limitlessly and the fact that i have no ego at all.

Do not want to tag anyone, but anyone who reads this post should try to answer these questions and put them in words...written not spoken.

Dial M for Music!

Since iv been tagged, here's whats on my playlist -

1. Khamaj by Fuzon - Lovely song, the music is simply soothing. One of those slow songs that pep you up.

2. Na Jaane Kyun by Strings, the OST for spiderman. This song is addictive. Kyun so gayi shaamein,Kat na saki raatein

3. Affirmation by Savage Garden, Power packed lyrics. Some of them are - I believe we place our happiness in other people's hands, I believe that beauty magazines promote low self-esteem, I believe the sun should never set upon an argument

4. Tujhse Naraaz nahi Zindagi (Masoom) - Jeenay kay liyeh, Socha hi nahi,Dard sambhaalnay hongay,Muskuraai to, Muskuraan kay Qarz utaarnay hongay Muskuraaon kabhi To lagta hai Jaisay honto par Qarz rakha haiy Absolute rocker this song is!!

5. When you say nothing at all by Ronan Keating - You say it best, when you say nothing at all. So im not going to say anything about this song. Hear it!

6. Dont talk to him by Cliff Richards - An absolute classic. This is how the lyrics go. If some guy tells you I don’t care, And tells you lies while I’m not there, Don’t talk to him, If you hear the words he has to say, He’ll break your heart.

7. Time of your life by Green Day - I guess i would be lost without this song. Another turning point;a fork stuck in the road.Time grabs you by the wrist; directs you where to go.So make the best of this test and don't ask why.It's not a questionbut a lesson learned in time.

There are so many more on my playlist...il get back to enjoying the music!! and some work!

Damn! Its best to shut up!

Its best to shut-up instead of speaking you heart and mind out. Its sometimes like throwing stones in the vacuum. Whatever you have to say just does not matter.

Instance #1: Earlier this week, my firm fired 150 odd people. In the open house QnA session, a lot of questions were asked. The management gave only shady reasons. The best one was - We do not want to hold back people from the opportunities available elsewhere.

Moral of the Story - "Diplomacy is thinking twice before saying nothing"


Instance #2: My Team Lead is a biased person. No matter how well you do, or how excellent a job you have done, the acknowledgement is NIL. Another team member is supported even if he calls red as yellow. Try raising your voice or being pro-active by giving your opinion, no point.

Moral of the Story - "Fighting with you boss is like fighting with a pig. You realise you're just getting dirty, while the pig is enjoying."

Instance #3: Speaking about your feelings and letting the other person know about their importance in your life, you are taken for a ride. If you raise your voice, you get a blow-hot-blow-cold treatment. It simply does not affect them a bit and they can be non-chalant.

Moral of the Story - "Keep your cards close to your chest"

Bottomline: Its best to shut up. Period.

This Day Last Year

This day last year, i walked into unfamiliar territory having a sea of unfamiliar faces. Today, I completed one year at my present organisation with no raise yet. Of the 13 people who joined the company last year, only 3 are still there. Pretty poor stats. I guess there's a trend i dint fit into. Anywys, Happy Anniversary to me!!

The firm i work for even discontinued the anniversary gift programme just a week back owing to cost-optimization (read cost-cutting). I was so looking forward to the nice gifts i had been eyeing for long. Instead there was an e-card in my inbox saying 'Congratulations!'.

When i look back now, time has passed by swiftly. So much has changed since then. I know things will never be the same, still i wonder how things would have been if i hadnt taken up this new job. The last one year has been a like a sine wave. There have been quite a few who have been with me through this roller coster ride. Thanks to all of them for being there. Life will be nicer if they still be there through each coming year.

P.S. Do only machines and women remember dates?

It hurts!

Everyone likes to hear good things that make you smile.But what when you hear something earth-shattering that shakes your existence. Everyone deserves to be loved and respected.

When you are with someone who claims that they love you but is constantly belittling you, calling you names, telling you what a needy, insecure drama queen you are, and that you're the reason everything goes wrong, when all you do is ask to be loved in return. At that very minute, i just feel like taking to my heels, slam it accross to the their face, everytime something nasty comes out of their mouths.

Disrespect bleeds over into everything else. Jokes that aren’t that funny, making fun of appearance, of wants and needs – these are disrespect at it’s most horrible. Cursing for everything going wrong.

I feel if someone disrespects you, then probably you are not significant enough in their lives or else they would never hurt you by saying things that hurt so much. If you stand your ground, confront each occurrence, “That hurts” or “That isn’t funny to me” should be enough for a the individual to learn from.

If the person is untrainable or claims thats how the person is – that is disrespect. The person doesn’t feel you have enough status in their lives that they needs to worry about your feelings, your values. ‘Taking for granted’ is disrespect.

Will leave you with a wonderful quote from fiends, Rachel says to Ross, when he makes a list of pro's and con's of being with Rachel - "Imagine the worst things you think about yourself, how would you feel if the one person who you trusted the most in the world, not only thinks them too, but also uses them as the reasons not to be with you"

Heavy Duty quote!

Is it me?

The other day while getting ready for a friend's wedding, i gave myself a closer look in the mirror and I didn’t like what I saw! I didnt see myself. I saw a confused mind! And I could hear myself saying “This isn’t me”. When did I lose my way?!

These days when i just lie down to sleep, a million thoughts crisscross my mind at the speed of light, bombarding my mind. It’s very strange how the life you always wanted to live flushes down the toilet! I mean every thing is awry and entangled. Seriously I’m running out of room in my head. It’s like I’m looking for a safe place in a not so safe world!

I lay still for hours. Every few minutes i looked into my cell phone, the clock ticked, but time did not pass! I’m trying to have an explanation for all this. I still go to bed every night going over every single detail and wonder what is wrong? Did I read the wrong signals?

I feel like torn into into little pieces and falling evrywhere. I need to pick them up myself and move on. I need to be fixed.

Where are you, Mr. Fix-it?

Operation Chappal

The minute i stepped out of the elevator and took a step towards my floor where my workstation is, i felt my something loosening. To my horror, one of the straps of my slippers gave away. It was really difficult to manage my walk, not to let my limping be so promininent, wanted to save myself from the embarrasment of broken footwear.

R sits next to me and understood what was wrong the minute i sat. R offered to fix it using office stationery. R is a guy, it was nice of him to step in. Then operation chappal began.

While R worked on my slipper meticulously, i was busy telling my friends on Gtalk about my slipper. Believe me such innovative ideas came up and thus started a debate with S, which is another story il tell later. Dunno what fun i was having talking about my broken slipper to people, i even mentioned it in my routine morning conference call with the client telling how the code broke in functionality last night and my slipper that broke this morning. Bad people, they could have ended the call earlier, sympathazing with the calamity i faced this morning. :P

A call,few board pins, staples, tape strips and quickfix later, my slipper was fixed. I was happier than probably cindrella would have been to get her slipper back.

Men are lucky in this regard, they hardly ever have to face the malfunction of wardrobe or footwear other than the occaisional fly left open :P

Hope to survive the day today!