Time and again I have made a hue and cry about things not meeting my need, cribbed about them. And then there are things that ground me, so much that I feel ashamed of cribbing and feel blessed at the same time for what I have.
This time the grounding factor was Paa. Saw it today and was taken down by it yet again just like Taare Zameen Pe. One in a million cases of a 'non-normalism' could happen to you or someone close to you. With over 3,000,000 DNA base pairs, if just one goes wrong, what follows is a life long battle of constant worry, underlying uncertainity, compassion, resilience, frequent crises, never ending hope, shattered dreams, daily challenges and the high stress and drama in their lives and so much more which probably I cannot fathom and if I try to it just gives me goosebumps.
What would you do if you were that unlucky one in a three million? One lottery nobody would want to win. But then, as far as life is concerned, expect the unexpected.
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Monday, November 30, 2009
Payback Time
Something happened at work today and Im not getting into the details of that here.
All these years, I always preferred to avoid conflict and retaliation. Internally, I justified this to myself as not stooping down to the other person's level. As a result, the other person always mistakes it for being meek. Unfortunately, it projects, I was just getting trampled on.
Well not anymore, I have now adopted a policy I use sparingly. Some people only understand things only when they are given a dose of their own medicine. Until then nothing works. And Im giving it back to them. The results are quite visible and fast.
An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth also follows the Newton's third law of an opposite and equal reaction. Tit for tat provides a balanced approach as per Game Theory too, a strategy that is optimistic, proactive and forgiving without being weak in its responses. It is proven, logical and effective.
Most of all, it's the type of person I try to be.
All these years, I always preferred to avoid conflict and retaliation. Internally, I justified this to myself as not stooping down to the other person's level. As a result, the other person always mistakes it for being meek. Unfortunately, it projects, I was just getting trampled on.
Well not anymore, I have now adopted a policy I use sparingly. Some people only understand things only when they are given a dose of their own medicine. Until then nothing works. And Im giving it back to them. The results are quite visible and fast.
An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth also follows the Newton's third law of an opposite and equal reaction. Tit for tat provides a balanced approach as per Game Theory too, a strategy that is optimistic, proactive and forgiving without being weak in its responses. It is proven, logical and effective.
Most of all, it's the type of person I try to be.
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Spaces, Marriages and Wishes
Its the wedding season, and seems like everyone around me is getting married. And if there is one gift that I would like to give them all - is this beautiful quote. Its from 'The Prophet' - by Khalil Gibran.
Here it goes -
Then Almitra spoke again and said, "And what of Marriage, master?"
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
Wishing all of you a blissful married life. To You Sumukh, Shweta, Divya, Shruti, Archit and the already married folks!!
Best Wishes!
Here it goes -
Then Almitra spoke again and said, "And what of Marriage, master?"
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
Wishing all of you a blissful married life. To You Sumukh, Shweta, Divya, Shruti, Archit and the already married folks!!
Best Wishes!
Monday, November 9, 2009
Im no super man
but just human. Just flesh and bone. And I cannot take more than what I can handle, yet I take on more. And thats exactly the problem i have been having offlate - I overburden myself with thoughts to change the kind of person I am. And I fail beautifully at it. Obviously because that is against the way nature or whoever created me. With fuck-ups galore these days - emotions have been running high and a totally unchecked item.
Recent happenings have pointed either directly or indirectly, to the way I am with people around me, and as glaring as it is - there is a need for me to button up and tighten up the strings of the package that holds me.
I give away myself too easily, open up as easily as a notebook and that isnt a good thing to do in the man eat man world out there.And it backfires for sure. You never know who, when, where and what might just fail you. And all you can do is wonder. And when things and people fail me, tears dont fail me at all.
Well I know what I’ve been told
Gotta break free to break the mold
But I can’t do this all on my own
No I know, That I'm no Superman
Recent happenings have pointed either directly or indirectly, to the way I am with people around me, and as glaring as it is - there is a need for me to button up and tighten up the strings of the package that holds me.
I give away myself too easily, open up as easily as a notebook and that isnt a good thing to do in the man eat man world out there.And it backfires for sure. You never know who, when, where and what might just fail you. And all you can do is wonder. And when things and people fail me, tears dont fail me at all.
Well I know what I’ve been told
Gotta break free to break the mold
But I can’t do this all on my own
No I know, That I'm no Superman
Monday, November 2, 2009
Roller Coaster
Mann ka ho to accha hai
par mann ka na ho to aur bhi accha hai
kyunki jab mann ka nahi hota
tab woh hota hai jo Uske mann mein hai
aur woh tumhare mann ke iccha se accha hota hai
- Harivansh Rai Bacchan
Profound and True!
par mann ka na ho to aur bhi accha hai
kyunki jab mann ka nahi hota
tab woh hota hai jo Uske mann mein hai
aur woh tumhare mann ke iccha se accha hota hai
- Harivansh Rai Bacchan
Profound and True!
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Kabhie Kabhie
..i am surrounded by people yet feel lonely.
..i am alone and yet dont need people around me.
..the smallest silliest thing makes me smile and laugh.
..the funniest of things fail to amuse me.
..im so angered that the silence replaces the outburst.
..i just endup shouting only to break the silence.
..i cry at the smallest thing that hurts me.
..i dont shed a tear even when something grave happens.
..i am impatient despite knowing everything will take its own time.
..i happily wait for the game to turn my way.
..i crib about everything around me.
..i am satisfied that everything around me is the best I can have.
and in between all of these things runs through my life. Each day at a time like a long windind road. Yet in that maze of life, with all those turns, I tend to get lost, but only if I get lost; I can find my way and myself.
Till then, as Johnny says - Keep Walking!
..i am alone and yet dont need people around me.
..the smallest silliest thing makes me smile and laugh.
..the funniest of things fail to amuse me.
..im so angered that the silence replaces the outburst.
..i just endup shouting only to break the silence.
..i cry at the smallest thing that hurts me.
..i dont shed a tear even when something grave happens.
..i am impatient despite knowing everything will take its own time.
..i happily wait for the game to turn my way.
..i crib about everything around me.
..i am satisfied that everything around me is the best I can have.
and in between all of these things runs through my life. Each day at a time like a long windind road. Yet in that maze of life, with all those turns, I tend to get lost, but only if I get lost; I can find my way and myself.
Till then, as Johnny says - Keep Walking!
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Hangover
Im not talking about the head-throbbing, stomach-churning kind of hangover that keeps you in bed with the blinds shut all day. But a hangover without alcohol. And it manifests in more than one way. This week has been a potent concoction of lots of things. The resultant is a BIG hangover.
Diwali is done and over with this year. Ive been a safai karamchari of sorts working overtime cleaning every nook and corner of the house on mom's instructions. Some repair work at home. Shopping for gifts. Visitng relatives and friends and then friends and relatives coming over. Read: Frenzy. Fatigue. Exhaustion. Its a sleep hangover, I think.
Met M and spoke on phone after what you can call an era. Ofcourse, a lot of water had flown down the river and things happened since we last talked. What followed was an information overload for I guess both of us. Read: Anaesthetic. Nostalgic. Peaceful. Its a emotional hangover, I think.
All night NINE hour conversation with K left me pleasantly tired and yet smiling. A good quantity and quality of candid conversation that I generally cant have with many people. I guess people make conversations to make what they feel more meaningful. Read: Platonic. Intense. Therapeutic. Fulfilling. Its a conversational hangover, I think.
Hangover from a heady cocktail,without a single drop of liquor. And it really is possible. And it can leave you in a pleasant happy high state just like you know what ;) and now that I've vomitted it out here, Im feeling even better :)
Cheers!
Diwali is done and over with this year. Ive been a safai karamchari of sorts working overtime cleaning every nook and corner of the house on mom's instructions. Some repair work at home. Shopping for gifts. Visitng relatives and friends and then friends and relatives coming over. Read: Frenzy. Fatigue. Exhaustion. Its a sleep hangover, I think.
Met M and spoke on phone after what you can call an era. Ofcourse, a lot of water had flown down the river and things happened since we last talked. What followed was an information overload for I guess both of us. Read: Anaesthetic. Nostalgic. Peaceful. Its a emotional hangover, I think.
All night NINE hour conversation with K left me pleasantly tired and yet smiling. A good quantity and quality of candid conversation that I generally cant have with many people. I guess people make conversations to make what they feel more meaningful. Read: Platonic. Intense. Therapeutic. Fulfilling. Its a conversational hangover, I think.
Hangover from a heady cocktail,without a single drop of liquor. And it really is possible. And it can leave you in a pleasant happy high state just like you know what ;) and now that I've vomitted it out here, Im feeling even better :)
Cheers!
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