Everyone likes to hear good things that make you smile.But what when you hear something earth-shattering that shakes your existence. Everyone deserves to be loved and respected.
When you are with someone who claims that they love you but is constantly belittling you, calling you names, telling you what a needy, insecure drama queen you are, and that you're the reason everything goes wrong, when all you do is ask to be loved in return. At that very minute, i just feel like taking to my heels, slam it accross to the their face, everytime something nasty comes out of their mouths.
Disrespect bleeds over into everything else. Jokes that aren’t that funny, making fun of appearance, of wants and needs – these are disrespect at it’s most horrible. Cursing for everything going wrong.
I feel if someone disrespects you, then probably you are not significant enough in their lives or else they would never hurt you by saying things that hurt so much. If you stand your ground, confront each occurrence, “That hurts” or “That isn’t funny to me” should be enough for a the individual to learn from.
If the person is untrainable or claims thats how the person is – that is disrespect. The person doesn’t feel you have enough status in their lives that they needs to worry about your feelings, your values. ‘Taking for granted’ is disrespect.
Will leave you with a wonderful quote from fiends, Rachel says to Ross, when he makes a list of pro's and con's of being with Rachel - "Imagine the worst things you think about yourself, how would you feel if the one person who you trusted the most in the world, not only thinks them too, but also uses them as the reasons not to be with you"
Heavy Duty quote!
Monday, April 28, 2008
Monday, April 21, 2008
Is it me?
The other day while getting ready for a friend's wedding, i gave myself a closer look in the mirror and I didn’t like what I saw! I didnt see myself. I saw a confused mind! And I could hear myself saying “This isn’t me”. When did I lose my way?!
These days when i just lie down to sleep, a million thoughts crisscross my mind at the speed of light, bombarding my mind. It’s very strange how the life you always wanted to live flushes down the toilet! I mean every thing is awry and entangled. Seriously I’m running out of room in my head. It’s like I’m looking for a safe place in a not so safe world!
I lay still for hours. Every few minutes i looked into my cell phone, the clock ticked, but time did not pass! I’m trying to have an explanation for all this. I still go to bed every night going over every single detail and wonder what is wrong? Did I read the wrong signals?
I feel like torn into into little pieces and falling evrywhere. I need to pick them up myself and move on. I need to be fixed.
Where are you, Mr. Fix-it?
These days when i just lie down to sleep, a million thoughts crisscross my mind at the speed of light, bombarding my mind. It’s very strange how the life you always wanted to live flushes down the toilet! I mean every thing is awry and entangled. Seriously I’m running out of room in my head. It’s like I’m looking for a safe place in a not so safe world!
I lay still for hours. Every few minutes i looked into my cell phone, the clock ticked, but time did not pass! I’m trying to have an explanation for all this. I still go to bed every night going over every single detail and wonder what is wrong? Did I read the wrong signals?
I feel like torn into into little pieces and falling evrywhere. I need to pick them up myself and move on. I need to be fixed.
Where are you, Mr. Fix-it?
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Operation Chappal
The minute i stepped out of the elevator and took a step towards my floor where my workstation is, i felt my something loosening. To my horror, one of the straps of my slippers gave away. It was really difficult to manage my walk, not to let my limping be so promininent, wanted to save myself from the embarrasment of broken footwear.
R sits next to me and understood what was wrong the minute i sat. R offered to fix it using office stationery. R is a guy, it was nice of him to step in. Then operation chappal began.
While R worked on my slipper meticulously, i was busy telling my friends on Gtalk about my slipper. Believe me such innovative ideas came up and thus started a debate with S, which is another story il tell later. Dunno what fun i was having talking about my broken slipper to people, i even mentioned it in my routine morning conference call with the client telling how the code broke in functionality last night and my slipper that broke this morning. Bad people, they could have ended the call earlier, sympathazing with the calamity i faced this morning. :P
A call,few board pins, staples, tape strips and quickfix later, my slipper was fixed. I was happier than probably cindrella would have been to get her slipper back.
Men are lucky in this regard, they hardly ever have to face the malfunction of wardrobe or footwear other than the occaisional fly left open :P
Hope to survive the day today!
R sits next to me and understood what was wrong the minute i sat. R offered to fix it using office stationery. R is a guy, it was nice of him to step in. Then operation chappal began.
While R worked on my slipper meticulously, i was busy telling my friends on Gtalk about my slipper. Believe me such innovative ideas came up and thus started a debate with S, which is another story il tell later. Dunno what fun i was having talking about my broken slipper to people, i even mentioned it in my routine morning conference call with the client telling how the code broke in functionality last night and my slipper that broke this morning. Bad people, they could have ended the call earlier, sympathazing with the calamity i faced this morning. :P
A call,few board pins, staples, tape strips and quickfix later, my slipper was fixed. I was happier than probably cindrella would have been to get her slipper back.
Men are lucky in this regard, they hardly ever have to face the malfunction of wardrobe or footwear other than the occaisional fly left open :P
Hope to survive the day today!
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
Home Alone
My folks are outta town for their final pilgrimage destination, and im home alone but far from the fun Kevin McCallister had. For the unititiated, Kevin McCallister is macaulay culkin's character in the home alone series.Now plz dont ask me who is he?
Getting up early to make breakfast, getting milk, boiling it and so many small things iv been doing. I then run to catch my cab. Work at office. Then get back home to do more cooking for dinner and other sidey household chores. This is how my days have been for the last 3 days and will continue for another 5 days. Ouch! I wonder if il survive this routine.
Wonder how my mom does evrything without complaining one bit and keeps smiling all the time.
Literally forced myself to get up and get going today morning.Am sinking into my chair right now, with stretched legs and yawning every minute, yes i am tired and sleepy and exhausted. Have a long day ahead and loads of work to do. Its only 9:30 AM, and i feel i have already over-used the energy quota for today.
My Wishlist for today -
#1 I want to take a nap, right here right now
#2 I want my mommy to get back home sooner
#3 Dine outside
Trivia -
#1 Home Alone 5 is under production, and will be released in December 2008.
#2 There are 4 dhaam's for hindu pilgrimage, Dwarka in Gujrat, Badrinath/Kedarnath, Rameshwaram and JagannathPuri
B4N
Getting up early to make breakfast, getting milk, boiling it and so many small things iv been doing. I then run to catch my cab. Work at office. Then get back home to do more cooking for dinner and other sidey household chores. This is how my days have been for the last 3 days and will continue for another 5 days. Ouch! I wonder if il survive this routine.
Wonder how my mom does evrything without complaining one bit and keeps smiling all the time.
Literally forced myself to get up and get going today morning.Am sinking into my chair right now, with stretched legs and yawning every minute, yes i am tired and sleepy and exhausted. Have a long day ahead and loads of work to do. Its only 9:30 AM, and i feel i have already over-used the energy quota for today.
My Wishlist for today -
#1 I want to take a nap, right here right now
#2 I want my mommy to get back home sooner
#3 Dine outside
Trivia -
#1 Home Alone 5 is under production, and will be released in December 2008.
#2 There are 4 dhaam's for hindu pilgrimage, Dwarka in Gujrat, Badrinath/Kedarnath, Rameshwaram and JagannathPuri
B4N
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Hope Against Hope
'Everybody's got a hold on hope, It's the last thing that's holding me.....'
Lines from the song 'Hold on Hope', im listening to right now...somehow makes me realize how we all cling to a hope, for some miracle to happen to turn things our way. There are certain things that you have no control over, and they sort out with time.
Why is that we still want to give time to things when the gut feeling contradicts it.Yet you find yourself so helpless at times. Maybe because we dont want to regret later that we gave up, when hanging in there for a little while could have made things better. After all when the going gets tough, the tough gets going.
Im clinging to a hope, that i might be able to get what i want, despite the odds. Im playing the waiting game but dont know what the outcome will be.
Im just like a passive player in a football ground. Have run around the ball a lot and am tired of doing that. Standing still for the ball to come my way. Yet im not leaving the field, dont want to quit. Then what am i doing in the field? I wonder....
That my friend, is hoping against hope!
Next song on the playlist, 'Time of your Life' by Green Day...
Another turning point;
a fork stuck in the road.
Time grabs you by the wrist;
directs you where to go.
So make the best of this test
and don't ask why.
It's not a question
but a lesson learned in time.
It's something unpredictable
but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life
Lines from the song 'Hold on Hope', im listening to right now...somehow makes me realize how we all cling to a hope, for some miracle to happen to turn things our way. There are certain things that you have no control over, and they sort out with time.
Why is that we still want to give time to things when the gut feeling contradicts it.Yet you find yourself so helpless at times. Maybe because we dont want to regret later that we gave up, when hanging in there for a little while could have made things better. After all when the going gets tough, the tough gets going.
Im clinging to a hope, that i might be able to get what i want, despite the odds. Im playing the waiting game but dont know what the outcome will be.
Im just like a passive player in a football ground. Have run around the ball a lot and am tired of doing that. Standing still for the ball to come my way. Yet im not leaving the field, dont want to quit. Then what am i doing in the field? I wonder....
That my friend, is hoping against hope!
Next song on the playlist, 'Time of your Life' by Green Day...
Another turning point;
a fork stuck in the road.
Time grabs you by the wrist;
directs you where to go.
So make the best of this test
and don't ask why.
It's not a question
but a lesson learned in time.
It's something unpredictable
but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life
Monday, March 10, 2008
Of the non-living bed bugs!
I recently read an article about how technology is invading our bedrooms. The article mentions how most of us interact with technological gadgets in the last moments before we sleep. It had a startling fact '20% of the people surveyed have checked social networking sites like Facebook, Orkut, Chatted online, played computer games or listened to MP3 players between the sheets just before sleeping.'
Most of us follow the same trend. The web is a place where people can find a comforting ear. Whatever the reasons for being unhappy, the internet can become a tempting distraction from the problems in life, heartache and the hassle of tackling relationship problems.
These non living bed-bugs are affecting our lives in a big way - sleep patterns get altered, we deny our bodies the rest it needs to re-charge for the next day. Between all these things, unknowingly our relationships are being hit. Ideally when one retires at the end of the day, it should be the time to assess the day , spend some time with self or to talk to one's partner. The bedroom should be the place to spend good quality time. That the time to bond before turning the lights off and calling it a day.
Technology makes it easier than ever to stay in touch these days, but can make it difficult to stay connected to our relationships.Ultimately its the relationships that matter to us.
This weekend, i re-arranged my bedroom. Other than the electricity points, all gadgets - my laptop, radio set, a pile of Cd's,phone have been kicked out. Books have taken their place. Some fiction. Some textbooks. That reminds me of the MBA exams i have from next week and the syllabus i dont know :(
Most of us follow the same trend. The web is a place where people can find a comforting ear. Whatever the reasons for being unhappy, the internet can become a tempting distraction from the problems in life, heartache and the hassle of tackling relationship problems.
These non living bed-bugs are affecting our lives in a big way - sleep patterns get altered, we deny our bodies the rest it needs to re-charge for the next day. Between all these things, unknowingly our relationships are being hit. Ideally when one retires at the end of the day, it should be the time to assess the day , spend some time with self or to talk to one's partner. The bedroom should be the place to spend good quality time. That the time to bond before turning the lights off and calling it a day.
Technology makes it easier than ever to stay in touch these days, but can make it difficult to stay connected to our relationships.Ultimately its the relationships that matter to us.
This weekend, i re-arranged my bedroom. Other than the electricity points, all gadgets - my laptop, radio set, a pile of Cd's,phone have been kicked out. Books have taken their place. Some fiction. Some textbooks. That reminds me of the MBA exams i have from next week and the syllabus i dont know :(
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Little things that matter much
As it stands, our closest relationships invlove a lot of truth telling and lying. Truth is hard to accept and so are lies. What makes a person bend a certain fact, a fact that might not even matter. However, the lying definitely matters. It can ruin a relationship and the mutual trust, giving room for suspicion and doubt to spring.
It drives me crazy sometimes to think about how deception is creeping into our lives. How shallow statements like 'I would never lie to you' have become. There are times when you want to confront people with their lies, its not the truth that you want to know, but why the person lied about something so trivial. What people do is continue covering up, repeating the same lie even when the truth is all there staring in your face.
The person who shares his/her deepest thoughts, darkest secrets, random nitty-gritties of the day, is the same person who also lies to you about stupid things that do not matter. You happen to come to terms with a lie, and bang there is one more put accross your path.
Will the truths of today become lies of tomorrow? How many times can one forget or forgive? Why lie, when telling the truth will be accepted? Are some of us leading dual lives?
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