Psychologies

Ive been tagged to answer these random questions. So here are my answers.

Q1) What do you miss most about childhood ?
A1) I miss the carefree attitude. Back then,i did not have to plan for ahead. No desires, no goals, no targets, no responsibilties. Easy going life with little to worry about.

Q2) What makes you glad that you're at this age.
A2) Today i am financially independent. I can take my decisions and am no longer dependent on anyone to do anything for me.

Q3) What kind of people repel you?
A3) People who do not confront situations and take the easy way out. People who are self-centered. I do not like people who are too much into how you look and what you wear.

Q4) What is the biggest dilemma you have faced?
A4) The classical head Vs heart dilemma, where it has pulled me apart in different directions. And im still wondering, who is right?

Q5) So what do you think of marriage now?
A5) Marriage is hard work and one needs to step into it only when one is ready to give it all it needs, to make it work. Nothing works on its own, even a cell phone needs to be charged everyday for it to work.

Q6) So would you prefer a live-in relationship to marriage?
A6) A 100% NO.

Q7) What would you change about yourself?
A7) I cling to things and push myself too far at times. I'd like to really change these things about myself.

Q8) What do you think of the Indian youth?
A8) I think the Indian youth today is living a life beyond their means. I feel they have a false sense of what life is. They know the cost of evrything but the value of nothing.

Q9) What about the man-woman divide?
A9) In rural areas, i guess it exists but it does not matter. Women rarely think of empowerment in those areas. In the urban areas, this gap has been bridged.

Q10) So you think women are less empowered?
A10) No, Women are no way less empowered. Women underplay their intelligence and showing her weakness is where a woman’s greatest strength lies.

Q11) What would you never change about yourself?
A11) Thinking limitlessly and the fact that i have no ego at all.

Do not want to tag anyone, but anyone who reads this post should try to answer these questions and put them in words...written not spoken.

Dial M for Music!

Since iv been tagged, here's whats on my playlist -

1. Khamaj by Fuzon - Lovely song, the music is simply soothing. One of those slow songs that pep you up.

2. Na Jaane Kyun by Strings, the OST for spiderman. This song is addictive. Kyun so gayi shaamein,Kat na saki raatein

3. Affirmation by Savage Garden, Power packed lyrics. Some of them are - I believe we place our happiness in other people's hands, I believe that beauty magazines promote low self-esteem, I believe the sun should never set upon an argument

4. Tujhse Naraaz nahi Zindagi (Masoom) - Jeenay kay liyeh, Socha hi nahi,Dard sambhaalnay hongay,Muskuraai to, Muskuraan kay Qarz utaarnay hongay Muskuraaon kabhi To lagta hai Jaisay honto par Qarz rakha haiy Absolute rocker this song is!!

5. When you say nothing at all by Ronan Keating - You say it best, when you say nothing at all. So im not going to say anything about this song. Hear it!

6. Dont talk to him by Cliff Richards - An absolute classic. This is how the lyrics go. If some guy tells you I don’t care, And tells you lies while I’m not there, Don’t talk to him, If you hear the words he has to say, He’ll break your heart.

7. Time of your life by Green Day - I guess i would be lost without this song. Another turning point;a fork stuck in the road.Time grabs you by the wrist; directs you where to go.So make the best of this test and don't ask why.It's not a questionbut a lesson learned in time.

There are so many more on my playlist...il get back to enjoying the music!! and some work!

Damn! Its best to shut up!

Its best to shut-up instead of speaking you heart and mind out. Its sometimes like throwing stones in the vacuum. Whatever you have to say just does not matter.

Instance #1: Earlier this week, my firm fired 150 odd people. In the open house QnA session, a lot of questions were asked. The management gave only shady reasons. The best one was - We do not want to hold back people from the opportunities available elsewhere.

Moral of the Story - "Diplomacy is thinking twice before saying nothing"


Instance #2: My Team Lead is a biased person. No matter how well you do, or how excellent a job you have done, the acknowledgement is NIL. Another team member is supported even if he calls red as yellow. Try raising your voice or being pro-active by giving your opinion, no point.

Moral of the Story - "Fighting with you boss is like fighting with a pig. You realise you're just getting dirty, while the pig is enjoying."

Instance #3: Speaking about your feelings and letting the other person know about their importance in your life, you are taken for a ride. If you raise your voice, you get a blow-hot-blow-cold treatment. It simply does not affect them a bit and they can be non-chalant.

Moral of the Story - "Keep your cards close to your chest"

Bottomline: Its best to shut up. Period.

This Day Last Year

This day last year, i walked into unfamiliar territory having a sea of unfamiliar faces. Today, I completed one year at my present organisation with no raise yet. Of the 13 people who joined the company last year, only 3 are still there. Pretty poor stats. I guess there's a trend i dint fit into. Anywys, Happy Anniversary to me!!

The firm i work for even discontinued the anniversary gift programme just a week back owing to cost-optimization (read cost-cutting). I was so looking forward to the nice gifts i had been eyeing for long. Instead there was an e-card in my inbox saying 'Congratulations!'.

When i look back now, time has passed by swiftly. So much has changed since then. I know things will never be the same, still i wonder how things would have been if i hadnt taken up this new job. The last one year has been a like a sine wave. There have been quite a few who have been with me through this roller coster ride. Thanks to all of them for being there. Life will be nicer if they still be there through each coming year.

P.S. Do only machines and women remember dates?